Russians have some unique properties when it comes to talking to people online. Starting with minor changes from what you used to do to huge unspoken rules. You would like to be interested in learning about some of these, if not for leisure, then for the usefulness this knowledge can provide you.
Table of content:
- Russian style of texting
- How it affects Russian
- The game of words
- Smaller norms of messaging with Russians
- What you shouldn’t do
- General advice for texting with Russians
- General do-not’s
- In conclusion
While talking to people or, in this case, Russian women online, you would likely want to make the conversation the least weird you can do for her. The logic behind this is that talking to a man in his own, not native to you, language is by itself felt alien. Plus, English-speaking Web has its own features when it comes to messaging. Most people would get used to it quickly, and you have a relationship to maintain.
Now, this statement isn’t true for everybody in the Russian Net. Some people like to browse English-based websites and apps and mostly adapt to this style of messaging and typing. Most Russians, however, prefer the comfort of their own Internet to something you need to learn English to use. That’s why Russian is the second most spoken language online (6.1% of websites use it).
Russian style of texting
Russian Internet really likes the concept its English counterpart utilizes — whatever you try to message, make it quick. That’s exactly why some people online don’t even care to use an apostrophe in words like ‘you’re’, ‘doesn’t’ and so forth.
That’s also why many long linguistic constructions you use all the time get shortened or discarded. Like the long-suffering ‘there are/is’. Not only do people not use an apostrophe in these (‘theres’), they often demote ‘there are’ to ‘their’. Some even cling to ‘their are’ — the great example of irresponsible attempts at shortening becoming everyday norms.
How it affects Russian
The game of words
The Russian language is so flexible, they can not only shorten the words but disfigure them completely. The words ‘здравствуйте’ (which means ‘hello’ in a polite way) over time turned into ‘здарова’ and then to ‘дарова’ and, finally ‘даров’. Here you go, instead of 12 letters you now need to worry about 5. And that’s just one example.
Point is while messaging to your friends and close ones, Russians rarely use long words if they can help it. They don’t abbreviate everything, however, only the words you can recognize afterward. This helps keep meaning intact and not waste time.
It also means getting rid of many rules and typing many words as close to their pronunciation, simplify them. It, actually, applies more to a friendly chatting, not to a serious conversation with your partner. It probably will only stand out and spoil the view. In the end, you can always experiment on that.
You, for your part, can avoid using long and unnecessary words when dating Russian women online. When you discuss life or any other deep and serious topic, you can switch to typing normally, that’s what most people do.
Smaller norms of messaging with Russians
Conversing with Russian women online doesn’t automatically mean you need to speak Russian for that. Many women who use the Internet can also speak English. Despite that, you can figure out a Russian among other users pretty easily. They use some patterns, and you may do it also.
What you shouldn’t do
Among the things you can change in your texting habits are:
-Using text emojis. Smily faces (‘:)’, ‘:D’, ‘:0’) aren’t really popular with Russians. They, however, love the closing bracket symbol at the end of the words. Using them after every word, even after every sentence is considered dumb even among Russians, however. When you feel an urge to emphasize your happiness, use the ‘)’ symbol at times. You can also use the smiling faces, they acknowledge them, but don’t use very often.
-Using several messages to say something. You may have encountered such behavior in some of your chats and conversations. Russians, on the other hand, do it a lot. They divide the general thought into segments and send one whenever it is ready. And then you can always add something new to it by typing some more messages. Letters are free, after all;
-Don’t use videos or gifs. OK, you may want to put a gif in your message once in a while, if it’s really relevant. But not when messaging Russian women online. That’s just not what people do. Sending gifs to emphasize certain emotions you have isn’t the case in Russia at all.
You can do all of the above and even not disregard your own habits at all if you want so. The chance that your relationship will get harder is really not that big. It’s only about making your partner comfortable, that’s all. If you think that the experience of talking to a foreigner is better than comfort — go for it, it’s not a bad idea either.
General advice for texting with Russians
These little things above aren’t causing that much discomfort really, compared to this. Some things Russians dislike utterly, it’s something either cast away as impolite or unnecessary or just deemed irrelevant. Internet-wise, of course.
Well, that’s what you can do to not let your girlfriend vomit from your typing:
-Don’t send messages you think are stupid. Just look at the message before delivering it, if you felt something dumb of dull while typing it. You really have a lot of time before answering a message, compared to the offline world. Do you really want to waste your time on something irrelevant? Just think a bit longer before finishing your message — it’s understandable;
-Type less. One of the reasons Russians prefer several smaller messages to one humongous text is that it’s easier to read whatever you want to say that way. Plus, you may also discard some of the longer or unnecessary words. If you want to tell a story — that’s OK, but otherwise, it’s painful to read for a Russian eye;
-Don’t build huge grammatic constructions, like a sentence with more than two sentences inside it or phrases that get blown all over the sentence just because you needed to add and explain something. Just chill, use smaller and simpler phrases. If you want to say something really massive, divide it into several messages;
–Don’t ask too many questions at once. This, in fact, works worldwide, but Russians despise it so much, they just ignore most or all of the questions. Just don’t ask too many questions, you won’t get a lot of answers you wanted so much. Just wait until a person you talk to gives one response, and then ask another about another thing;
-Don’t use exclamation marks. When something unexpected and shocking happens, people like to CAPS LOCK every sentence and put exclamation marks in the end. It doesn’t only feel like an unnecessary emotional explosion that Russian people won’t undergo even online, it scares some. It’s not what people usually do. So, when someone starts doing an Internet equivalent of yelling like a baby — they don’t really know what to do except tell the guy who yells to shut up;
-Try not to use audio messages unless she does it too. See, audio messages in most of the Russian Net are considered something people do because they are lazy. It’s acceptable when you are freezing or want to say something very quick. But in other cases, you’ll be considered an idler.
There’s more to the list, of course. Most of the other stuff, however, will just turn out as general advice for most of the Web. Plus, your girlfriend is a unique person, and she probably has her own list of things that grind her gears.
As a result, rules that Russian people use online come down to ‘don’t waste time’ and ‘don’t be stupid’. There are a lot of things Russian people have an irrational problem with. They are really passionate when it comes to hating something online. Knowing some of these will help you talk to Russian women online and make them more comfortable with you, but that won’t make you secure.