Table of content:
- Is it easier to reason with the Russian ladies
- How do you even know that she’s mad?
- What you must not say
- What are the ways you may utilize
- What Russian men usually do
- Talking your way out
- If it doesn’t work, then what
- In conclusion
Russian ladies can be quite unforgiving, despite their gentle appearance and nature. You may try to apply your usual diplomacy and charm to them, and it may work, sure. But the ultimate guide on how to negotiate with the Russian girlfriend who’s mad at you can only be found in Russia.
Let’s dig into some of the ways and methods the Russian men use to relieve the tensions between them and their loved ones.
Is it easier to reason with the Russian ladies
Russian women have many merits for which people date them, but is reasonability one of them? In other words, is it hard for them to see your point of view? Well, it universally depends on how much a woman cares about you. If she does very much, it will be much simpler for her to forgive your little mistake (that is, if the mistake is just a wee one).
If your ‘mistake’ is a rather serious one, for example, God forbid, cheating, then you’ll have no mercy. Whenever you do something this bad, you can’t count on forgiving. You can ask for it, but it’s better to admit that you screw up big time.
But overall, Russian ladies can be reasoned with. It’s actually impossible to deduce if it’s more common among them than among their counterparts in other countries.
With age, however, it’s starting to change, for some reason. At least, in the older generations. Perhaps, the hard times took its toll on them, but, from what you can understand, they get grumpier with age. It may be that marriage kills all the romantic aspects of living together.
The Russian men, however, aren’t very romantic. Not to the point you may assume because of the hilarious Russians you’ve seen online, but it’s still a Northern people. So, it’s probable that you’ll do nicer than most of your colleagues in this country.
How do you even know that she’s mad?
That’s actually a good question because boys can be very brick headed, and apply the logic where it really shouldn’t be applied. Are you sure that your partner’s bad mood is your own fault? It can be quite hard to deduce, true, but is you are any adept at grasping hints and causal relationships, you will be fine.
Yep, Russian ladies may never even tell you what’s wrong, and be mad for weeks, waiting for you to finally understand your fault. That’s why it’s so complicated to tell — if she doesn’t tell you, she may as well be moody because of something completely unrelated to you.
That’s actually pretty obvious to realize if you think about it, especially online. Think back to when her attitude changed and remember if you’ve done or said something tactless or rude. Found it? Then go and just say ‘sorry’ for it.
If you didn’t find anything or found something that’s completely stupid to be mad about — then she’s not mad at you. Most likely.
What you must not say
When you’ve deduced that she really is not happy with your behavior, you really should mind your tongue trying to say you’re sorry. By saying something tactless you can do even worse. So, try not to say these things:
–Don’t ask if whatever you’ve said or done bothered her. If it did, then you’ll just show to her that you aren’t even sure about it, making yourself look even ruder in her eyes;
–Don’t try to explain it to her first things first, it will really look like you are trying to make yourself look better without understanding your guilt;
–If she is partly to blame for whatever happened, don’t hint at that. You really should know better than explaining this to your unhappy Russian girlfriend
It is truly a lot like a minefield, but what can you do?
What are the ways you may utilize
If you know from your experience that something will improve her spirits, use it. The wave of good emotion will make it easier for you to gain forgiveness.
Though, you don’t even need to hear her forgive you. If the good new memory you’ve just caused is greater than whatever harm you did, most likely she won’t even care about the latter anymore.
What Russian men usually do
It sounds pretty simple, and it is. Russian men usually resort to giving gifts to the Russian ladies to earn forgiving. It’s usually not something universally good, but whatever she really wanted lately. It will be a good surprise, and if you’re cunning you’ll be able to put it up as a sign that you’ve acknowledged the mistakes.
And even if she somehow wasn’t even mad at you, you’ll be safe from such attitude for a while. Don’t exploit it, though, because in doing so you’ll only earn more earfuls.
Talking your way out
You can always talk your way out of the predicament. Of course, you may assume that it’s impossible to win in an argument against a woman, but that’s prejudice talking. Russian ladies, at least, can be reasoned with. Especially when you’re dealing with a younger sort. They tend to see your point of view may more often than usual.
Just keep an open mind and try to understand her point of view. After all, it’s not about this isolated incident, it’s a problem that will keep reoccurring. That’s why the first way is often just a temporary solution to it.
You need to actually discuss it together but remember not to say that you both are responsible. Even if it is so, this option doesn’t work well in an argument.
There’s no guide or advice as to how to talk it out (unless you’re online, where you have a lot of time to spare before responding). But, generally, the best advice would be not to make it a heated argument.
But if you feel that if you start an argument at all it will be heated no matter what — just adhere to the first option, it’s better this way, granted you can avoid the same mistake. But that needs a skill of establishing a causality on your part.
If it doesn’t work, then what
Your girlfriend may also not say to forgive you or hint at that. But don’t worry that she’ll remember it forever. Russians are not that vindictive, as long as you do good, they don’t linger on whatever bad you’ve done for long.
That too needs you to do something good, however. If your relationship is not healthy and it’s hard for you to make her happy, then it’s probably better to end it willingly before it ends itself. If you both feel that it’s better this way, there won’t a problem with that, don’t worry.
Though, if the cause of her malcontent was her own temper, then it may actually be a problem. But breaking up is pretty situational, it’s pretty much up to you to decide when and how to do it. Just don’t wait too much. You may very well start getting delusions of a happy life right until the next conflict.
Getting people to forgive you largely depends on what relationship you both are having. That’s why you should also know what kind of person your partner is, and not just read the guides for social interactions, like this. Even the best article can’t help you get prepared for every occasion.
Interacting with the Russian ladies is even harder as the culture is probably pretty exotic to you. However, you, as an outsider, will probably get an upper hand and a bit of condescending attitude (which is good in this case). You don’t know all the subtleties of this society, and she probably understands this. And, if you really must, you can always use it as an excuse yourself.
And if you need some more practical advice on how to date Russian ladies with minimum casualties, try checking out some other articles on this website. Alternatively, you can also watch this helpful video below for some information on Russian women themselves: